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The Three S's of the Sex Industry: Stereotypes, Stigma, and Shaming

This is how I start my mornings.

There are a lot of misconceptions regarding sex work and the porn industry which only serve to fuel to the ongoing stigma and shaming of those who are part of that world. I am very open about what I do and who I am so when people ask me under hushed breath if I'm an escort I raise an eyebrow at them and respond with another question, "why are we talking with our library voices?" It's not necessarily something that I have tattooed to my forehead, but my friends and family know and if you ask me I won't deny it - why should I?

Mein Lieber Herr

The first time I started hooking I was surprised to find that I wasn't having all that much sex with any of my Johns. My initial thoughts were, "What is this bullshit?! Am I not fuckable, or something?!" It wasn't until I started to get to know these wonderful people with whom I came into contact that I realized that, while I did work in the sex industry and contrary to popular belief that everything is about sex, there was more to it all than immediate self-gratification. Sure, there certainly is and can be that aspect of being a RentBoy where you and your clients develop a strictly sexual relationship but sometimes you encounter someone who simply wants a connection with another individual.

Ch-ch-ch-changes!

I was going through old journals and came across this gem of a piece from a blog posting I wrote in my sophomore year of high school when I just came out of the closet. It's funny how some things have changed but how a lot has, more or less, stayed the same. We, as a society, are constantly reinventing ourselves and that cannot be more true for me right now. If you told me that I would be working for RentBoy, The Saint at Large, Folsom Street Events, and other similar companies when I was just coming out of the closet I would have, first of all, had no idea what you were talking about and, after learning what they were, laughed in your face and made a snide comment regarding sex workers and the porn industry.