The Most Common Relationship Mistake Gay Men Make

I just finished reading an article in Revolutionary Gay Magazine about the common relationship mistakes gay men make and I couldn't disagree more. I stopped reading after it listed "Open Relationships" as a common mistake gay men make. If anything we, as gay men, make the common mistake of equivocating ourselves with our heterosexual counterparts - the most prominent of which is our sex and sexuality. While this article does make a few good points, including hastily attaching yourself to your partner and the need to respect each others boundaries, it reads and panders as a whiny attempt to heteronormatize homosexual relationships.

Breaking News: Supreme Court Rules DOMA Unconstitutional... and I Still Can't Even Get a Date

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Today's Supreme Court ruling that the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) is unconstitutional by a 5-4 vote grants same-sex couples the same legal rights and benefits awarded to their heterosexual counterparts on a federal level, and throws out California's Proposition 8 straight out of the window. This not only marks a pivotal point in our nation's history, but will also make it exponentially more difficult for me to find a husband now that all of the good ones are going to start pairing up and getting hitched. Social media networks exploded with glee over the news this morning and I am still misty eyed and ready to agree to the next person who proposes to me.

Hell Hath No Fury Like A Gay Blogger Scorned

I only recently came across Christopher Gen’s call to arms against the influx of men questioning their sexuality and their use of Grindr to explore their identity. The writer is obviously thoroughly misguided and misinformed on LGBTQI (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, and intersex – because yes, sexuality truly is a spectrum) culture and his commentary on such a matter can only be read as the whiny complaint of a gay man scorned for misusing a social networking application that does not cater to what he looks for in an ideal man. Before I dissect each poorly articulated concern regarding the degradation of gay men as a community by those who are not “man enough to admit what you want,” I suggest that Christopher choose a different network the next time he’s looking for a romantic connection.

Trevor NextGen's Fall Fête 2012

The gorgeous Angel Orensanz Center in the Lower East Side

Trevor NextGen is a volunteer division of The Trevor Project whose main goals include raising awareness and promoting the growth of Trevor's programs through outreach and fundraising events in the community. One such event includes our annual Fall Fête which was emceed by Avenue Q's John Tartaglia, and featured music by DJ Lina. The evening included live musical entertainment by Anthony Rapp from the original Broadway cast of Rent, upscale silent auction items, a deluxe raffle ticket prize, and of course a hosted bar.

Happy National Coming Out Day!

Today is National Coming Out Day, an annual celebration of ones self-identifaction as a member of the LGBTQI community by "coming out" of the proverbial closet. Founded in 1988 to promote progress through visibility, we as a community have come a very long way in our quest towards equality. I've heard a lot of people exclaim that it seems ridiculous to have a specific day to celebrate being out, open, and proud of our sexual orientation, that our lives should be a testament to this very fact. I agree. Choosing to live openly as queer individuals encourages others to do the same and shows them that they are not alone and have a family and community that accepts and loves them for who they are.

Ch-ch-ch-changes!

I was going through old journals and came across this gem of a piece from a blog posting I wrote in my sophomore year of high school when I just came out of the closet. It's funny how some things have changed but how a lot has, more or less, stayed the same. We, as a society, are constantly reinventing ourselves and that cannot be more true for me right now. If you told me that I would be working for RentBoy, The Saint at Large, Folsom Street Events, and other similar companies when I was just coming out of the closet I would have, first of all, had no idea what you were talking about and, after learning what they were, laughed in your face and made a snide comment regarding sex workers and the porn industry.