The Three S's of the Sex Industry: Stereotypes, Stigma, and Shaming

This is how I start my mornings.

There are a lot of misconceptions regarding sex work and the porn industry which only serve to fuel to the ongoing stigma and shaming of those who are part of that world. I am very open about what I do and who I am so when people ask me under hushed breath if I'm an escort I raise an eyebrow at them and respond with another question, "why are we talking with our library voices?" It's not necessarily something that I have tattooed to my forehead, but my friends and family know and if you ask me I won't deny it - why should I?

Hell Hath No Fury Like A Gay Blogger Scorned

I only recently came across Christopher Gen’s call to arms against the influx of men questioning their sexuality and their use of Grindr to explore their identity. The writer is obviously thoroughly misguided and misinformed on LGBTQI (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, and intersex – because yes, sexuality truly is a spectrum) culture and his commentary on such a matter can only be read as the whiny complaint of a gay man scorned for misusing a social networking application that does not cater to what he looks for in an ideal man. Before I dissect each poorly articulated concern regarding the degradation of gay men as a community by those who are not “man enough to admit what you want,” I suggest that Christopher choose a different network the next time he’s looking for a romantic connection.

Boy's First Dildo

Here's a fun fact about me - as much sex as I've had over the past decade or so I have never once owned a dildo prior to yesterday. When I was much younger there was always that curiosity and longing to have something inside my hole but I always filled it up with the real thing. I have, over the years, tried to go out of my way to purchase a sex toy and always brought a friend with me to help me search for the right one for me but the search always ends with them asking, "Why are we looking for a dildo when I'm right here, horned up, and ready for you?" To which I'd respond by rushing them back to my place.

Rumours of a Hot Tub Porn Scene Filmed in Hudson County

Road trip!

Halloween has come and gone and now Autumn is upon us. What better way to celebrate, and ignore the anxiety of the elections by escaping to upstate New York for some much needed R&R, time in the hot tub with a cocktail in hand and your friend's cock in the other, right? While upstate for the weekend my friends and I caused a bit of a stir on Grindr and Scruff and may have sparked a rumour that we were filming a hot tub porn scene in Hudson County, New York. I'll have to disappoint y'all now by saying we were a little too distracted by other activities to commit to shooting anything, but the weekend was still fun!